Unlocking The Doors Of Friendship
Transforming All Relationships Into Friendships
Part Two
A renewed understanding of our true nature and the higher purpose and meaning of our earthly existence, as well as forgiveness in my view are they main keys for unlocking the doors of friendship. When I reflect on my own lessons of past lifetimes and the earlier ones of this one, I realise the necessity for finding forgiveness as well as compassion, love and affection for myself and my own suffering just as much as for anybody else. As difficult as this turns out to be at times, it is necessary and it helps bearing in mind the advice of Alexander the Great: ‘Nothing is impossible for those who are willing to try.’ When it comes to forgiving others for their trespasses, it is helpful to know that we cannot change other people, only ourselves. As Katie Curran Taylor wrote: ‘You cannot change the way someone else feels if their mind is set or their past has too much of a hold on them. Until they themselves want to change, you have to let them be. Be brave, gentle and set yourself free.’
To paraphrase Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Swiss Psychiatrist and Author: ‘Truly beautiful people are those who have known defeat, suffering, struggle, loss and who worked their own way through these experiences, hand in hand with God and the Angels. Out of the depths of the hell of human suffering they have risen with a fresh appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving empathy with the pain of others. Beautiful people do not just happen, they can only grow and evolve on the Earth plane.’ I believe that the happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything. They are happier than others because they realise that life is a precious gift and their contentment grows from the ability of making the most of everything the Universe places before them.
Aware that we are responsible for every one of our thoughts, words and actions, I carefully watch what I think, say and do, and am ever mindful of the wisdom from the Buddha legend: ‘Words have the power to destroy and heal, and true and kind ones can change and improve our world.’ Lao Tzu added to this: ‘Kindness in words creates confidence. In thinking it provides us with profoundness and in giving it brings us love.’ Appreciating that we are all together on the Earth to help each other, I am happy to follow the Dalai Lama’s suggestion of: ‘Help others whenever you can. If that’s impossible, at least do not harm them.’
Knowing that it takes a long time and many lifetimes to become the person we would like to be, and this is the case for all human beings, wise ones don’t allow anything or anybody to stop them from working on themselves. And when they look back from the evolutionary point they have presently reached, they realise that the people who once treated them badly were in truth their best teachers. These people were the ones who taught them how they do not wish to be. And so they give thanks and praise to the love and wisdom of the Great Father/Mother of all life for providing them with the gift of such excellent teachers.
Yet once in a while, when something or someone has upset them, even wise ones cannot help getting angry. Being wise never stopped anyone from feeling that way and that it is their good right to feel angry, just the same as everybody else. What makes a wise one stand out from less highly evolved souls is their awareness that this does not give anyone the right for being violent and cruel. That’s why wise ones look for creative and constructive outlets for the release of their anger.
One good way for letting off steam is by writing an angry article, letter or poem – to themselves. Documents of this nature are not meant to be kept but destroyed, ideally by incineration in the open air, so that the anger together with the smoke can be blown away by the wind. Truly wise ones go one step further by asking the Air elementals to carry the negative feelings of the present situation, together with every last shred of the hatred, aggression and anger that has accumulated down the ages on the Earth plane, into the temple of healing in the heartmind of the Highest Star and the brightest Light, the Christ Star, to be uplifted and transmuted into blessing, healing and harmonising energies for all life.
A spot of flow-writing by jotting down whatever comes into their mind is another good way that wise ones can get something of their chests. It helps them to know that getting angry is not some kind of a shortcoming on their part, but merely an ordinary aspect of everyone’s character make-up. Furthermore, they refuse to blame their parents or other ancestors for any of their negative character traces because they know that each one of us alone is responsible for who and what we presently are. The background and circumstances of our present lifetime only influence us to a certain extent. All of us are responsible for our character traits, good and bad ones alike, because we ourselves developed them in previous lifetimes. We bring them with us into each new earthly sojourn in the hope of finding fresh opportunities for working on and improving them.
The Divine spark in the collective heart of humankind is stirring from its slumber and ever more of us are becoming aware that in truth we are all siblings in the great family of God’s Creation. The Christ love is born in our world and this is the kind of love that motivates ever more of us to make their contribution to establishing God’s kingdom on the Earth. This love does not require more from any one of us than conducting our lives in peaceful and modest ways that put no unnecessary strain on Mother Earth’s precious resources. Hopefully this will encourage others to follow our example. Under the influence of the spirit of this age, the Aquarian Zeitgeist, human hearts increasingly feel a desire to reach out in brotherly/sisterly love and friendship to all lifeforms that share our world with us.
A deep yearning for peace and harmony to be restored in earthly life rises from the innermost core of our being into our conscious awareness, which is accompanied by a desire to give of our best and do all we can to contribute to the blessing and healing of our world and all its inhabitants. These things are all signs that the true ‘Second Coming’ or the ‘Latter Days Of The Law’ are with us and making themselves felt more and more. So, let’s focus our whole being on love, giving and receiving it wherever we can. In this way more can be done to help others than any form of earthly legislation could ever dream to accomplish, because the power of love without human intervention rights that which is in disorder and out of harmony.
As far as the circumstances that still exist anywhere in our world are concerned, they contain extremely valuable spiritual lessons for individuals, groups, countries and ultimately the whole of humankind. The learning gained from these experiences will eventually bring a new golden age to our planet. Above all others, love is the tool that is needed to solve all human problems and to heal all relationships by transmuting them into friendships. The Christ love expresses itself as honesty and truthfulness in every aspect of our life, and simple human kindness and friendliness, respect for and tolerance towards each other’s feelings and points of view.
Recommended Reading:
• ‘Varying Perceptions Of Life – Why?’
• ‘If I Knew’
• ‘Karma In Families’
• ‘We Are Our Own Ancestors And Descendants’
• ‘Our Afflictions Are Not Ancestral Curses’
• ‘Family Energies’
• ‘Forgiveness Grows From Understanding’
• ‘The Art Of Forgiveness’
• ‘The Latter Days Of The Law Or The Second Coming’
• ‘The New Golden Age Of Plenty’
• ‘The Law Of Karma’
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